Releasing tears
Hello and welcome back my fellow passion hunting explorers. As many of you know I am on a personal journey to find my passion. Well, to say the last couple of days have been a rollercoaster has been quite an understatement.
UNRELEASED TEARS AND FINDING YOUR PASSION.
I awoke the other morning with the heaviest of hearts. It was sooo dark a place that I truly had felt that this ‘finding your passion‘ mission had gone awry and all hell was breaking loose inside me. In short I was MISERABLE!! More miserable than I had felt in a long time yet I couldn’t put my finger on what it was. All I knew was that deep in the middle of my chest was the biggest black ball and it was hurting every time I thought about how I wanted my life to be once I had completed this 12 stage program I am doing. What struck me as odd though was that I only ever feel that pain there when I am taking about ‘uncomfortable’ things about my past, my upbrining, and the like. It really had me stumped as I was only imagining and thinking good things, or so I had thought.
In essence I was feeling so stuck and confused. I was feeling this unbelievable sadness and yet from all outside looks life is going great . Have you ever felt that? You know that feeling of blackness, numbness and a ‘What the hell is wrong with me????’. Finding your passion I have discovered is by no means an easy task, which is why I think many people start the journey and then stop before the answer they are seeking is found. Trust me I was tempted!!! I rang my coach and explained what was going on.
HARDEN MY HEART, SWALLOW MY TEARS.
Bottom line. Yes I was sad. He so eloquently put it in this context. I hope you get what I am saying and this helps you to as it helped me. Imagine a heart. All beautiful and white open space. Its primary function is to facilitate flow through and movement. This is of all things in life, however we only think in terms of blood. Emotions need to be released and flowed through and dispersed.’ Good’ feelings, such as happiness, joy, gratitude, love, excitement etc. we have no drama in feeling the full force and letting them flow. I mean they just feel so damn good not to. However ‘bad’, or ‘not so good’ feelings like hurt, anger, betrayal, rejection, really sting and so we tend to want to shut them down and move away and on from them as fast as we can. In general they suck!! So why would we really want to go there and feel the full force of them?
Well the reason is because we need to. Every time we don’t, can’t, or choose to just harden our heart and swallow our tears we are taking a piece away. A piece that is capable of really feeling love and joy and making it harder on ourselves to a)begin finding your passion, b) to feeling the fabulousness of live around us and c) to being able to feel the greatness of who we are and where we are going. I know for me this hardening approach has certainly taken its toll and so now I have to go backward in a sense to go forward. For me the hardest part of releasing my tears was that I have become so bloody good at shutting down that I didn’t know how to open up and get the tears rolling.
CRY ME A RIVER.
So, I went and hired some real tearjerker movies and spent all yesterday sobbing. At what? I have no idea but this time around this crying was one of the best feelings I had had. Did it hurt? You better believe it did!! Am I all finished? Hell no! I have only begun to break the dam wall. But can I tell you that after balling my eyes out for 3 hours I felt exhausted but also a little freer. I hope I have explained this well enough.
You have to release the old to make way for the new. Old stale anything will cause problems. Its the same for emotions. Cry your heart out if you need to. Do it in a way where you feel safe. Do it alone if it is easier. Just start getting it up. I know that finding your passion seems to be one of the hardest things you are doing at the moment, but I am certain that not finding it is going to feel worse. I know I have become tired of being the ‘living dead’, shut down from all the good around me. I want to feel, but what I have realised is that to feel you have to feel it all.
Have a fantastic day. I look forward to your comments. As always, stay safe, have fun and enjoy finding your passion.
Vittoria McDonald
Bucket List; How it can help you in finding your passion. p.2.
Hello and welcome back my fellow passion hunting explorers. Today is the continuation of part 1 of my article on bucket lists and their usefulness in assisting you in finding your passion. So, before we ourselves ‘kick the bucket’ lets get a wiggle on….
What goes into a bucket list?
ANYTHING, ANYTHING AT ALL !!!! That’s the beauty of your bucket list is that there is no right or wrong answer. It is
created purely on your most deepest hearts desires and in doing so you get in touch with the most authentic and truest part of your soul and start gaining a few pieces to the puzzle that assist you in finding your passion. Your bucket list is just that YOURS. It can contain grand plans to see the world or have an item such as spending a whole day in bed luxuriating with the person you love. It is all about what brings YOU the most joy. It is the window into you. The REAL you. The you who is no longer thinking in terms of ’should’ or ‘cant’. It is pure and it is fun.
Where to begin????
If you are anything like me when someone asks you to write down all the things you would like to experience before you die, you probably find it sooooo overwhelming you have no idea where to start!!!! I know I do so that is why I have created a suggestion list for those of you who are unsure where to begin and are struggling with finding a way to dig deep down, really let loose and get to the heart of finding your passion and your deepest goals in life.
- Imagine that you have an unlimited credit card that never ever has to be paid back. The beauty of setting the stage like this from the beginning is that it means that in your mind money is no longer an object to get in the way of finding what it is your heart truly desires.
- Get a blank piece of paper and while listening to a song such as this,
, or one that you really love that challenges you to think if today was your last day, and then begin free writing all the things you would do. Don’t think about your answers, how you would achieve these things you want or get to the places you want to go. The key is just getting them down, to get your heart to really open up and start speaking, and for you to let it. - Once you have done this once, you may find that you wish to listen to the song of your choice a few more times and keep writing down until you feel that you have really heard your heart, or until you are satisfied that you have the beginnings of something that really stirs you up and gets you excited to imagine yourself ticking every single item off this list.
- Once you have your list I would suggest putting it in order of things you think are easy to do down to what you think is impossible to achieve. You will find once you start at the baby steps the walking will be easily achieved as you will be able to see your progress and motivation will inspire you to think outside the square.
- The final step is then to take action. Make a vow to yourself today that you will begin crossing off things on your list. It doesn’t matter where you begin the key to finding your passion and really living a fulfilled and satisfied life is to get moving and then to keep moving in the direction you want to go.
- And most of all remember to have FUN. It has to be fun. Without the fun you are just adding more “to-do’s”, your bucket list should be light and fun and give you excitement.!!!
I hope you have enjoyed this article and find it to be a useful tool in your bag of tricks in assisting you to finding your passion and living a life based on joy.
As always I look forward to your comments, suggestions and opinions. Stay safe, have fun and enjoy finding your passion.
Vittoria McDonald
Bucket list; How it can help you in finding your passion p.1
Hello, and welcome back my fellow passion hunting explorers.
Over the weekend I watched a Brilliant film called “The Bucket List”. Benjamin Franklin said “that in this world nothing can be certain, except death and taxes.” Unfortunately for us he was 100% correct in his observations; however, this does not mean that you need to roll over and give up your life, your dreams, or finding your passion, and today I would like to share how you can use a bucket list to begin getting some of the jigsaw pieces to click into place.
Why must we wait?
Put simply a bucket list is a list of all the things, places, people you want to see, do and spend time with before you die. It is also known as the “100 things to do before you die” list.The bucket list derived it’s name from the phrase “kicking the bucket” which is a common expression for death. Fortunately for us though we do not have to wait to be diagnosed with some terminal illness, or life-threatening condition to begin assembling our bucket lists and then to actively pursue achieving each and every item on it. Rather creating your bucket list early in life takes advantage of all the time we have up our sleeves and in the creating a bucket list you will find it can begin to highlight and show you some very insightful information in regards to finding your passion today.
What’s the point of it all?
The reason why you want to have a bucket list is that it allows you to really think about what it is that you would give your everything to do, see, or experience if you knew your time was limited. We all hear the stories of those who are on their death beds saying if only they had really lived their lives, and gone after those things that were truly important to them, they would be able to pass with fewer regrets. I think the point of making and completing your bucket list is that it gives you a sense of accomplishment and a confidence that for every item you check off, you are one step closer to finding your passion and living in the joy-filled state that is truly intended for you. I believe a life half lived out of fear of what others would think, is such a waste. Ultimately you only need to make yourself happy. The bucket list can be instrumental in assisting you to find your passion as it gets you to narrow down your focus to purely the things that bring you the highest pleasure and joy.
Stay tuned for part 2 of this article where we will be discussing what makes a bucket list and how to get started. As always I look forward to you comments and suggestions. Stay safe, have fun, and enjoy finding your passion.
Vittoria McDonald
Bound for Glory. p.3.
Hello, and welcome back my fellow passion hunting explorers.
Today is part 3 of my previous blog post which has been focussed on how not to let excuses get in the way of you finding your passion. If you haven’t read part 1 or part2 click on the appropriate links. So without further ado, lets get going, time’s a wastin as they say. 
I’M ALIVE.
It is this profound realisation that it is you who gets to decide what you believe, who you listen to and what you choose to attribute to the events of your life that, if played correctly, will allow you to see that how “tough” life was is what has given you the character and resolve and ability to be able handle more than most – should you choose to follow that road. If however, you choose to allow the circumstances of your past to paralyse and control you forever and render you incapable of rising above them, and therefore denying you the opportunity of finding your passion, you have effectively ensured yourself a very uncomfortable and difficult journey in the game of life. Despite the saying ‘Misery loves company’, I have found that it is true only for so long. However, the great thing about life, no matter where you have come from, who you were, are or going to be, it is in this moment you can turn it all around. It is YOU who gets to decide and YOU who gets to choose. Are you bound for glory or just plain bound?
Looking forward to reading your thoughts and comments on this. As always stay safe, have fun, and enjoy finding your passion.
Vittoria McDonald
Bound for Glory p.2.
Hello, and welcome back my fellow passion hunting explorers.
Today sees the continuation of part 1 of my last blog post. We are going to continue discussing why using excuses is such a common place occurrence in the pursuit of finding your passion, and ways to possible avoid repeating this behaviour. So lets get rockin……
CAN’T HOLD ME DOWN,
Unfortunately I have seen too many of my peers allow life to throw them a curve ball and then never recover from it. Years later they still refer to a particular experience, or event, and use that as the reason why they have been unable to affect change in themselves or their lives . With the abundance of services available in this information age we live in, a simple Google search can provide a wealth of knowledge, information, literature, products and services that have the potential to undo the most damaging experiences ever lived, and make the mission of finding your passion a much easier one. Provided however, that the person who is undertaking this mission, is holding themselves accountable and seeking improvement for betterment of their life and no longer looking for a scapegoat.
CAN’T HOLD ME BACK.
It is necessary to realise that if it is change you are after, and ways you can begin finding your passion, the places you will need to go internally to get the peace and serenity to reclaim your birthright of happiness and joy can be, at times, more painful to experience than the original suffering. To undo a lifetime of berating, abuse, or any of the other issues and challenges you may have faced, and rediscover your worth can be quite painful to deal with and push through. I have learnt, however, that if change is to ever be lasting and a peace achieved, the well buried scars of the past cannot stay hidden forever. Eventually you will have to go in deep and pull out that old tape that you have running in your head, more often than not put there – or added to- by others, and create a new one. One that encompasses exactly where you are now, where you have come from and where you are headed. It is in the removing of what you find no longer serves you, that you find freedom, and exhilaration as you now become the master of your own destiny no matter what anyone told you before.
Stay tuned for part 3 , the final instalment, in my upcoming blog post. As always, I look forward to reading your comments and replies. Stay safe, have fun, and enjoy finding your passion.
Vittoria McDonald
